{"id":2585,"date":"2019-03-11T12:11:59","date_gmt":"2019-03-11T12:11:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/2019\/03\/11\/breaking-the-trend\/"},"modified":"2019-03-11T12:11:59","modified_gmt":"2019-03-11T12:11:59","slug":"breaking-the-trend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/breaking-the-trend\/","title":{"rendered":"Breaking the Trend"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>11 March 2019 | London, United Kingdom [Onysha D Collins]&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On 23 February 2019 in London, the South England Conference (SEC) hosted their second \u2018Breaking the Trend\u2019 event; a day of celebration and fellowship. The programme was designed to incite newness and oneness and to provide remedial solutions around issues of isolation, exclusion, and shame.<\/p>\n<p>Now in its sophomore year, \u2018Breaking the Trend\u2019 was a joint effort between SEC Departments: Women\u2019s Ministries, Men Ministries, Disability &amp; Diversities Ministries, and Church Growth.<br \/>The day was themed \u2018Creating Places of Belonging\u2019. In the run up to the day, attendees heard phrases like \u2018an opportunity to connect\u2019, \u2018a place to feel inspired\u2019 and pleasantries of that ilk. Often the concern is that those commonly used words at Christian functions never veer beyond the nebulous to actually provide cogent practical advice. Perhaps aware of this, the team did a stellar job by heading in the opposite direction.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" alignright size-full wp-image-2575\" style=\"margin: 5px; float: right;\" title=\"Parabole Productions [Photos: Onysha D Collins]\" src=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200.jpg\" alt=\"Parabole Productions1200\" width=\"300\" height=\"226\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-500x375.jpg 500w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-350x263.jpg 350w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-700x525.jpg 700w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-900x675.jpg 900w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-1100x825.jpg 1100w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Parabole_Productions1200-560x420.jpg 560w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>After beginning the day with a hearty welcome and prayer, the state of the Church was addressed through a short theatre production. Helmed by Parabole Productions, four actors took centre stage to invite the audience to assess how seemingly innocuous conversations can prove detrimental to self as well as the listener.<\/p>\n<p>The scene was set with two couples engaged in gossip fodder. Energetically, they recounted the affairs of a pastor and the waywardness of a congregant\u2019s teenager. Intermittently, each actor broke the fourth wall to address the audience with their own shortcomings and shame of being unable to deal with it. Their issues ranged from work-related stress, pornography addiction, to parental failures. A light was shone how it\u2019s easier to talk about other people\u2019s problems rather than our own. Met with enthusiasm from the audience, it was palpable that the skit rang true.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" alignleft size-full wp-image-2578\" style=\"margin: 5px; float: left;\" title=\"Pastor Rebecca Davis\" src=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200.jpg\" alt=\"Rebecca Davis1200\" width=\"300\" height=\"203\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-1024x694.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-768x520.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-350x237.jpg 350w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-700x474.jpg 700w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-900x610.jpg 900w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-1100x745.jpg 1100w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_Rebecca_Davis1200-560x379.jpg 560w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>The programme progressed swiftly with soothing music from L.E.G.A.C.Y Youth Choir before Pastor Rebecca Davis presented her sermon. Although she had travelled from California, Davis\u2019s jet lag did not show since her entire presentation was laced with pert humour and scriptural depth. She began with statistics on the correlation between internet use and loneliness. As a side note, she mentioned that 17 million Brits do not have a close friend. A figure which has risen by 10% since 2013\/2014. The contrast was much more profound when America was brought into the fray.<\/p>\n<p>Using Genesis 2:8, \u2018It is not good for man to be alone\u2026\u2019 Davis proffered that when our human-shaped void is not filled, we live in isolation. Relational maladies infect us and we can suffer from loss of perspective. She further explained that we can easily forget that the enemy\u2019s successful strategy is to isolate us so that he can destroy us. The panacea posed by Davis was &#8216;community&#8217;. \u201cCommunity\u201d, she said \u201ccan bring fullness of heart.\u201d Yet, only effective if implemented Jesus\u2019 way: no longer loving others as we love ourselves, since some people don\u2019t even love themselves; rather to love each other as Christ loved us as stated in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=John+13%3A34&amp;version=NIV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">John 13:34<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\" alignright size-full wp-image-2580\" style=\"margin: 5px; float: right;\" src=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200.jpg\" alt=\"breaking the trend1200\" width=\"300&#96;\" height=\"NaN\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-300x155.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-1024x527.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-768x396.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-350x180.jpg 350w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-700x361.jpg 700w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-900x464.jpg 900w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-1100x567.jpg 1100w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend1200-560x288.jpg 560w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/a>Davis\u2019s rationale was that this love, in essence, creates community: for it moves beyond self-love as the exemplary standard, but points to Jesus\u2019 self-sacrificial love. Through fully living out this command, it would usher in a messianic community equipped to change the world and be the greatest testament of Christian apologetics. Using Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook\u2019s founder, as an example, Davis stated that Zuckerberg understood that people longed for community; they wanted to connect, to see other people and to be seen. It was one of the reasons why the social media site became so popular. However, when ranked by young adults, the Church, across the denomination spectrum, scored highly in every other section but community spirit.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" alignleft size-full wp-image-2581\" style=\"margin: 5px; float: left;\" src=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/sitenews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200.jpg\" alt=\"breaking the trend workshops1200\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-350x233.jpg 350w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-700x467.jpg 700w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-900x600.jpg 900w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-1100x733.jpg 1100w, https:\/\/ted.adventist.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/images_news-2019_breaking_the_trend_workshops1200-560x373.jpg 560w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>It was a profound wake-up call, one which was addressed further in the afternoon workshops, whereby attendees learnt how to begin the process of learning how to love like Jesus. This manifested in presentations on how to spot signs of unhealthy relationships, the difference between shame and guilt, emotional intelligence, as well as exploring how Adventist men can reconcile submission to God with their masculinity.<\/p>\n<p>Sophia Nicholls, the Diversity &amp; Disabilities Ministries Director and key co-ordinator of the day, said that \u201cthe objective was to speak openly and frankly about current issues in order to develop an understanding for the need to change or for self-reflection and examination.\u201d The feedback from the day indicated that that goal was successful as exemplified by this statement from one of the attendees, \u201cI am compelled to go back to my Church and make a change. The morning speakers were excellent. We need more of these types of days for learning.\u201d<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>ted<\/em>NEWS Staff: Victor Hulbert, editor; Deana Stojkovi\u0107, associate editor<br \/>119 St Peter&#8217;s Street, St Albans, Herts, AL1 3EY, England<br \/>E-mail: <span id=\"cloakdc5a9908acadb860741baa51af48ff4b\"><span id=\"cloake3ba8c18f6f2882e90c2ca4f1f887510\"><span id=\"cloaka8c2b4a12ade6d036c49d07d7a4fbf9a\"><span id=\"cloak752cae2ee684394ec927574dc2aa6b12\"><span id=\"cloak554c1edd2fafb1b42f9dcdefd7fcff05\"><span id=\"cloakbb55f78c31d1f04821f84a90d392fc76\"><span id=\"cloak0b23c0caf2dca21f1ec6fc3009367972\"><span id=\"cloak375fbffb331676b8f340dca3ff2c59d1\"><span id=\"cloake99471b715bd555ca3a55021694a9450\"><a href=\"mailto:tednews@ted.adventist.org\">tednews@ted.adventist.org<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><br \/>Website: www.ted.adventist.org<br \/><em>ted<\/em>NEWS is an information bulletin issued by the communication department of the Seventh-day Adventist Church in the Trans-European Division. 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